i have a 2 year old son that just doesn't seem to listen to me at all and rarely listens to his father ive tryed going at it with a positive approach n talking to him nicely and he doesnt listen unless i yell and sometimes that doesnt even work and i dont like yelling at him all the time ive tryed time outs but he entertains him self and when he gets out of them hes gets right back to what hes doing ive tryed taps on the bum when he does something really bad with time outs and talking to him and telling him what he did wrong over and over again and he still seems to do it and hes turning into a safety hazard for example hes been in trouble several times from turning on the stove and placing objects on the burner and ive tryed explaining to him what will happen ive even tryed showing him what will happen on movies and stuff and he still does it and theres alot more things he does and ive tryed everything but take his favorite toy away and in order to do that i have to take all him toys away cause he doesnt have a favorite one and when hes bored hes gets into way more mischieve some one please give me something unusual that i havent tryed that may work
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He sounds like a smart little boy who is getting into mischief as a way to entertain himself. He may not even be 'trying' to be defiant or naughty but, keeps getting into trouble because he's curious about how things work and he's possibly bored. A lot of the higher-energy toddlers also tend to be more impulsive for a while too. He will out-grow most of it in the next year or so, so hang in there.
Try and find more ways to keep him active. Are you part of a regular play group? Most areas offer things like toddler gymnastics, basic mommy and me swim lessons or library story times etc. Make sure you try to get out of the house every day even if it's a trip to the park or the library or just for a walk. Do things together likePlay-doughh, paint, bubbles, puzzles, or small little crafts when you see he's starting to get bored. Have him 'help' you whenever possible.
As far as safety hazard types of issues, some of the really high-energy/active toddlers NEED a higher degree of baby-proofing because they are impulsive. You can purchase online some types of guards that will block his access to the burners or you can take the nobs right off the stove and only put them on when you use it. I'm pretty sure I've also seen guards or covers that are made for those as well. Look for ways to prevent him from getting into trouble and life will be easier for both of you.
Also, look for toys that give him a way to burn off some of his energy like a 'Sit N' Spin' or small trampoline, or inflatable bounce toy, ball-pits, play-tents and tunnels. Even a large cardboard box with holes or a door cut out for him to go into and out of will probably be a big hit with him if he's high-energy (like my kids!) and will entertain him longer.
As far as discipline, don't give up! My son was very similar at two as what you are describing and I was scared he would never learn to be less impulsive or to behave and he did! Just be consistent with time-outs EVERY time even if it seems like it's not working, because it is! Finally, as my son turned 3 I would see him stop and -think- about what he was about to do. Before he grabbed the dog one day he looked at me and said "That's naughty isn't it? I don't like time-out" and then he walked away lol! He was finally learning self-control. Your son will get there too, just hang in there and good luck!
He sounds like a smart little boy who is getting into mischief as a way to entertain himself. He may not even be 'trying' to be defiant or naughty but, keeps getting into trouble because he's curious about how things work and he's possibly bored. A lot of the higher-energy toddlers also tend to be more impulsive for a while too. He will out-grow most of it in the next year or so, so hang in there.
Try and find more ways to keep him active. Are you part of a regular play group? Most areas offer things like toddler gymnastics, basic mommy and me swim lessons or library story times etc. Make sure you try to get out of the house every day even if it's a trip to the park or the library or just for a walk. Do things together likePlay-doughh, paint, bubbles, puzzles, or small little crafts when you see he's starting to get bored. Have him 'help' you whenever possible.
As far as safety hazard types of issues, some of the really high-energy/active toddlers NEED a higher degree of baby-proofing because they are impulsive. You can purchase online some types of guards that will block his access to the burners or you can take the nobs right off the stove and only put them on when you use it. I'm pretty sure I've also seen guards or covers that are made for those as well. Look for ways to prevent him from getting into trouble and life will be easier for both of you.
Also, look for toys that give him a way to burn off some of his energy like a 'Sit N' Spin' or small trampoline, or inflatable bounce toy, ball-pits, play-tents and tunnels. Even a large cardboard box with holes or a door cut out for him to go into and out of will probably be a big hit with him if he's high-energy (like my kids!) and will entertain him longer.
As far as discipline, don't give up! My son was very similar at two as what you are describing and I was scared he would never learn to be less impulsive or to behave and he did! Just be consistent with time-outs EVERY time even if it seems like it's not working, because it is! Finally, as my son turned 3 I would see him stop and -think- about what he was about to do. Before he grabbed the dog one day he looked at me and said "That's naughty isn't it? I don't like time-out" and then he walked away lol! He was finally learning self-control. Your son will get there too, just hang in there and good luck!
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